It all started in the train this morning. I met X, and X went on and on and on… “you should see that, unbelievable”… “I can’t believe it is happening again”… “it’s all such a mess”… and “really how could Y do that to me”…. and on and on and on, until…. as I was about to lose patience or interest I am still pondering, came the sneaky comment “you can’t understand, nothing ever happened to you”… Later that day, as I go to pick up a coffee I come across W, who quickly turns on the mechanics… on and on and on and on…”So terrible”… “So tired, so unfair”… “you would say some people think”… “I thought at least some decency there”…. and on and on and on and on until –like a Déjà vu- the sneaky comments “you can’t understand, nothing ever happened to you”…. What if? What if actually I do understand everything, and so well that I can choose the right approach to life that whatever happens to me becomes learning and feedback, as if nothing ever happened to me? Cool, isn’t it!